Fairy Closure Mommy
Hear ye, hear ye! I come bearing great news. Is that unresolved situationship leaving you with a bucket of questions? Consider it resolved—I am your fairy-closure-mommy, and I am granting your closure.
Bippity-boppity-boo, the only way out is through!
We've all been in relationships where we sought closure from another person when it ended. Maybe it's a friend who vanished from your life without explanation or an ex-love whose breakup reasons still have you creeping on their social media (not me, hehe...).
We convince ourselves that sitting down with them one more time, hearing their side, would make it all make sense. But I call BS.
In my experience, external closure is fleeting. Either the conversation goes well, making you consider continuing the toxic relationship, or it goes terribly, leaving you wanting a redo. It’s a lose-lose.
Seeking closure from someone else often leads to more questions and prolonged pain, trapping us in the past.
Time to work my fairy-closure-mommy magic. (Totally unnecessary sentence, but I love saying fairy-closure mommy. That's three times if you're counting– four if you count the title.)
Seeking closure from another person isn’t impossible, but it’s also totally unnecessary. Closure comes from within. It's knowing you did what was best, trusting yourself, and realizing you deserve peace of mind, whether or not the other person provides it.
I know seeking closure from within sounds like a lot of work—and it’s admittedly a bit of a catch-22.
Catch-22 refers to a paradoxical situation where one is trapped by contradictory rules or circumstances. Not a great Cliff's Notes, but you get the gist.
Your options: Face yourself, claim closure, and feel the hard feelings that come with closed chapters while also acknowledging the optimism that comes with new experiences.
Alternatively, schedule that rendezvous with your ex. Meet up for coffee with your super awful ex-bestie. Succumb to the temptation of seeking closure from external sources and thereby prolong the inevitable descent into chaos.
In truth, the decision seems clear to me.
This is when I really wish my blog had a sick soundtrack. I’d play something empowering, like Rihanna or Black Sabbath.
Closure is yours inherently—no validation or permission is needed.
I’m going to repeat that because it’s important, and I’m also very proud of how that thought came together.
Closure is yours inherently—no validation or permission is needed. You can claim it for yourself without anyone else's approval. You can break free from chains that have held you back, take control of your own narrative, and move forward on your own terms.
Discovering closure within yourself is like finding your own superhero cape—it symbolizes your inner strength and resilience. Rather than seeking closure from external sources, channel your energy into cultivating it within your own sphere. You have the power to take control of your environment.
You can block that guy, delete that number, and curate your own path toward peace of mind. It's not just a choice; it's an affirmation of self-love—a gift you owe yourself.
And so, with a wave of my fairy-closure-mommy wand (that’s five), let us embark on a journey inward, where the truest forms of resolution await. No longer shall we be ensnared by the siren song of external validation, for we have discovered the sweet melody of self-assurance. Reflect, learn, and then let that sh*t go. Free yourself from seeking validation from others and embrace the freedom of owning your truth.
With my whole heart,
Your Maddy
