Assorted Goods
Welcome to Assorted Goods, a place for everything that doesn’t quite fit anywhere else. Here, I’ll share a mix of thoughts, experiences, and stories—from the everyday to the unexpected. It’s a collection of whatever’s on my mind, and I’m excited to see where it takes us.
Actually, Don’t Pick Me.
The phenomenon of “pick-me” energy is a hot topic, with many people voicing their grievances about women who seek this validation. Ironically, while the intent is often to enlighten, these discussions can sometimes feel contradictory and generally miss the bigger picture. “Pick-me” energy is a nuanced issue deserving compassionate examination. It’s not just about calling out behaviors; it’s about understanding why we fall into these patterns and offering ourselves—and others—a little more grace.
Love, Luggage, and Learning to Reroute
The hardest lesson I’ve had to learn is that healing is not linear. Being in a relationship while dealing with trauma means I’m constantly negotiating with two different realities—the one in front of me, and the one that my trauma is distorting. Learning to separate the two is like trying to solve a puzzle with pieces that keep changing shape. It’s exhausting, but it’s necessary work.
Don’t H8 Me (Or Do)
Instead of seeing their dislike as a personal failure, I now understand that it’s merely a reflection of their own preferences and biases. As long as I feel good about who I am and maintain my integrity, their opinion holds no power over me.